"But you've only been with girls."
"So you're saying a person is a virgin until they've had intercourse with a member of the opposite sex?"
"Isn't that the standard definition?"
"Again with your standards! I think virginity is lost when you make love for the first time."
"...with a member of the opposite sex."
"Why? Why only then?"
"Because that's the standard."
"So, if a virgin is raped, then she's still a virgin."
"No, of course not."
"But she's had sex, just not the standard idea of sex and hence according to your definition she'd still be a virgin."
"Okay, I'll revise. Virginity is lost when the hymen is broken."
"Well, then I lost my virginity at ten."
"Yeah, cause see I fell on a fencepost when I was ten and it broke my hymen."
"Okay, second revision. Virginity is lost through penetration."
"Physical penetration or emotional penetration?"
"Hmm, well I fell in love hard with Caitlen Bree when we were in high school."
"We had sex."
"But not real sex."
~Ben Affleck and Joey Lauren Adams, Chasing Amy
I think Kevin Smith makes an excellent point. What is sex, who defines it, and who defines whether or not you've done it? Is it different from person to person or is there one standard? Is it something that you can go by the dictionary definition? I think gray is an awful color and I hate areas that are gray.